As we head into a New year, the topic of New Year’s resolutions might come up and for a change you might actually want to actually set some resolutions for yourself, given the way 2020 has turned out. What can happen though is, you set yourself some “New Years resolution” and then end up giving up halfway through January because, well – life happens. Rinse and repeat. In her two-part series, Alessia Donato is here to help you break that pattern and to learn how to set attainable, realistic and meaningful goals rather than empty resolutions so you can feel confident you can crush 2021, no matter what you decide to do.
Be SMART About Your Goals
Putting your goals in writing is the first step to creating a plan you can stick to and help you stay motivated. Keep your goals in a place where you can see them often: a note on your bathroom mirror, office desk or on your smart phone are handy places. Setting your goals using the SMART method results in goals that become the basis for your personal map to success:
S – Specific – this is the WHAT, WHY and HOW of the goal. Focus in on what you really want, why its important to you and how you plan to achieve it. Decide WHAT you want, WHY you really want it and HOW you see putting a plan in place (if you aren’t quite sure right now, it is okay- you will figure this out as you go). For now the HOW can be HOW do you see setting time aside to focus on your health.
M – Measurable – how will you measure your progress? The best way to track your progress is to measure it tangibly. From a health or weight loss perspective, it may be helpful to weigh-in on a schedule, like once or twice a month and take body measurements once a month.
A – Achievable – set a goal that is achievable but that also challenges or stretches you to do more. Set short-term goals or milestones to mark your progress towards your long-term goals.
R – Realistic – be realistic in creating your goals and your plan. For example, wanting to lose 25 pounds in one month is not realistic or desirable, so set a goal that is realistic. Ask for help or feedback if you’re unsure whether a goal is realistic or not.
T – Time-bound– it is important to know when you want to achieve your goal. This helps you know if your goal and your plan are realistic. It is also helpful to have a time line to help keep you on track with the milestones you set. If your goal is weight loss, a time frame is good, but it is also important to be aware that everyone loses weight at different rates and to not get discouraged if weight loss does not happen as quickly as you would like. The other benefit of a timeline with milestones is that it gives you the opportunity to assess your progress and redefine your goals if necessary – they’re in writing and not set in stone!
DREAM BIG! Passion fuels the rocket, but vision – a big dream points the rocket to its ultimate destination. Dream Big! – Steve Jobs
Why do you want to reach your goals? What would that really mean to you and what would that feel like? If you don’t have an emotional attachment to your goals, they aren’t usually as meaningful or motivating. What’s going to get you moving on those days you really don’t ‘feel like’ it? Maybe you have a goal to lose 20 pounds to fit into a dress for an event. Why is that important? Truth is, it’s probably not about the dress. It’s most likely about how you will feel; more confident, perhaps. Your why is usually layers underneath your initial answer. Your “why” is what will help you stay committed when achieving your goal seems hard or challenging. Write this out on a piece of paper!
Figuring Out Your Why
Here’s an example to walk you through the process if you need help getting started:
I have a goal to _________________________________________________________________________
This is important to me because ____________________________________________________________
and I want to __________________________________________________________________________
and feel like ____________________________________________________________________________
and this would mean _____________________________________________________________________
(Yes, I know there are a few “because” spaces in there. That’s the most important part in getting to your WHY).
Grab a planner or get one of the suggested apps like AwesomeNote, 2Do, or Toodledo (there are many others too) to set specific goals and help keep you on track. I like these apps because they keep you organized and you have what you need at your fingertips.
Having an initial time frame for when you’d like to accomplish your goals will drive you towards reaching them sooner. Adjust tasks and due dates as needed. We all work smarter when we have a deadline.
Go back over your list of priorities, your WHY and your SMART goals and be sure your goals are in sync with what you really want for your life. How do you really want to spend your time? What makes you happiest? Are your goals in line with that? If yes, that’s great – you’re on your way. If they’re not, just take some time to reevaluate what’s most important to you at this time in your life and adjust your goals and your plan accordingly.
Once your goals are in line with your priorities, you have a solid plan in place and you know what you want, deep down inside, you become unstoppable! Keep your goals in front of you often as this will guide you in the direction you want to go in 2021 and in life overall.
I recommend revising your goals, revisiting them periodically and not being afraid of changing course or dropping certain goals when they don’t align with your why!
What you focus on is what you get.
What will you start with TODAY?
“Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what is possible for your life.” Les Brown
If you’re interested in taking the next step in your health journey, Alessia helps I help working women over 30 break up with restrictive diets & get strong and confident at any size! If you’re looking to finally drop fat, get toned, strong and build a healthy relationship with food, start your journey today!
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You may have had trouble making changes in the past, but this time it can be different – especially if you have someone to encourage you, support you, and show you what to do step-by-step.
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